REAL FRIENDSHIP AND COUPLES
Friday, March 28th, 2008this came from my brother in Kerygma family forum community, bro TJ, thank you at pinayagan mo ako i post to sa friendster blog ko, wanna share it with my friends…..medyo nakakarelate kasi e, he3x,
So here it is:
The point here is real friendship… please take note of this premise
@diannelife: what i see about your point in breaking up is that there is always something wrong with breaking up
It seems like when some couple breaks up, there is always a "breaking of trust"…
Not all break-ups are caused by fights, misunderstandings and loss of trust
Again I need you to both see the reality in which the premise stays true…I ask… How can real friends (yung talagang people who know each other… to their very core… and are mature enough to handle themselves and others and each other [take note... iba ang others sa each other]) create loss of trust if in their friendship, they can handle such misunderstandings and fights correctly
What I mean is, these people still have misunderstandings and fights… But they know that trust and communication is very important to them… their relationship as friends is important. In this case… virtually… they could not break the trust of each other…
Their communication level with each other are way above… Yung tunay na close…Yung parang tanguan na lang… e oks na.. marami na silang nasabi nun at naintindihan na nila ang isa’t isa… It would be really hard for one party to destroy the friendship and trust of the other
Just think… Di mo naman sasaktan ang tunay mong kaibigan diba?
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Now back to relationships… as couples (married and GF/BF alike)he only hard thing about real friendship going to a relationship where you are now a couple is when there are remnants of myths that still linger in both of the parties mindsets
Like this one: magbabago ang lahat kapag naging GF/BF na kayo… mawawala ang friendship…
This sucks… really… I heard this since highschool… and it really… grrrr 
A very very very good relationship that lasts till the 50th wedding anniversary… is founded on real friendship
These people who says magbabago are still the people who are always swayed and being controlled by their own feelings and emotions… They don’t want to control their actions… so as to always blame somebody or something else… like their own feelings… or they have fallen out of love…
These people do not own the responsibility to control their actions…
Relationships (as in couples) are also friendships but with a different way of loving and serving each other. Yes, in here, there are feelings and emotions and terms of endearment that are inside the frienship… But, you are still friends… and nothing has change even if the relationship was taken to a higher level… In fact… mas lumalakas pa ang friendship niyo each and everyday
Meron bang tunay na magkaibigan na habang tumatagal ang pagkakaibigan e mas lalong nasisira… di na yun tunay diba?
Another myth: Pag nagbreak-up e masisira ang friendship.
Yes there is pain in every breakup… But that doesn’t mean na sira ang friendship. Yes magbabago ang pakikitungo niyo sa isa’t isa (so as to heal both parties). But still the frienship is still there.
I’ve seen this kind before… many times… since highschool….
"Ayokong mawala ang friendship natin…"
crap… (marami magrereact… *evil laugh*)
I ask… "friendship" nga lang ba ang takot mong mawala o magbago? or something else 
Again… friendship stays… Yes, the trust may have changed but if these people are friends (sabihin natin nasira talaga ng isa ang trust ng isa… reality check)… ma-eearn naman ulit in time.
Ang most likely takot lang natin is the fact that now ganito ang inyong pakikisalamuha at pakikisama sa isa’t isa at natatakot kang magbago ito dahil lang you are going to a relationship na pwedeng magbreak-up kayo in the end….
To think that not all relationship goes haywire… some has a happy ending
Pero nauunahan tayo ng takot…
Takot na baka masira ang lahat… mawala ang lahat… magbago ang lahat
E kahit ano namang gawin mo… magbabago at magbabago naman ang lahat… kahit hindi man kayo naging kayo… in a few weeks or months… magbabago parin kayo at pakikitungo niyo sa isa’t isa… pwede parin masira yan (lalo na kung ang nagpapatakbo sa inyo na ay feelings na lang… aysus)
Point: It’s all about fear… fear of something wrong may happen… and the way you treat each other, and not the friendship, will change…
You are "happy" the way things are… you now dispise change… you just want everything to be like this… you are now in comfort zone… and you fear na kapag natake into a level of a relationship that is usually more secure dapat ang relationship niyo as friends… e baka magbago ang lahat… may masira… mawala ang trust… as if your actions now depend on something else… your feelings… and not on you and your foundations of character.
As if your love for each other in a relationship becomes dependent not on both of you… but on a fleeting feeling… where both of you can fall in… or fall out… at anytime…
Gets ba?
Marami pang myths…
Pero ito muna… May schedule pa ako today… so I’ll cut this short for you guys…
About break-ups… I want to restate what I’ve said earlier
Not all break-ups are caused by fights, misunderstandings and loss of trust
Just think… what if the break-up is mutual… They just know that they will be hurting each other more if they continue their relationship as lovers.
They know they can’t serve each other and the people around them with their relationship.
Then, using all their strength and will, backed-up by maturity and God’s grace…
they break-up… it hurts yes… Because they have invested their lives in each other…
Pero ganun e… They know they are not meant for each other… But still… their friendship is intact… Yung tunay na friendship ay nandun parin… nothing has changed… but made stronger lang
Final note: All of these… relationships, friendships… Communication is vital…
Yun lang
